Sunday, May 8, 2016

Love God Herself

I have been having some deep conversations lately.

My favorite author Elizabeth Gilbert told me (in her book Eat, Pray, Love) 10 years ago "God exists with in you as you." And anybody who has followed my blog has seen me write about that before.

In that statement there's a beautiful truth tied to a very scary and ugly potential issue.

The truth is that God is never far from you, because God lives in you, works through you, knows your heart and your mind better than you do.

The lie is not stated but implied, as most lies are. You are not God. You're human. You have limits; God is limitless. God exists within you and with all grace and magnanimity, God allows you to be a vessel for power.



At the risk of being cliché, Beyoncé just "told Jay Z" (Beyoncé did not get one over on Jay. Everything she said, he knew she was going to say, and probably agreed to it before she put it out. They're married), "when you love me you love yourself/ love God herself."
If you haven't watched Lemonade, spoiler alert: at the same time that she sings those lines, there's a screen flashing black and white that says "GOD IS GOD and I AM NOT."

As complicated and problematic as this is sure to be for many of you, it's culturally relevant and it's playing out in my life, so I'm going to try and use it.

In Beyoncé's lyrics, in Gilbert's writing, and - I'm starting to think - in life, there's a difficult dichotomy that only the diligent, the meditators, the seekers will find out how to navigate.


God is higher than us, wiser than us, better than us, but God's influence in the earth's realm is all but inextricably bound to humans.  If you believe the biblical creation story, God created humans in order to commune with us.  So the All-Powerful pours power into weak, frail humans with a funnel.

Why?

I don't know what the answer is, but I know what the answer is not.
God does not choose to manifest through humans because that is the only option.  God is not bound by us. God's power does not shift or diminish without our cooperation or participation.

The answer might be in the concept Paul calls "being united with Christ" (Romans 6).  He writes that we are united to Christ, the Anointed, in his death and in his resurrection, in his suffering and in his victory (1Peter). We are coheirs with Christ of the Kingdom of heaven (Ephesians).
Those who are called and foreknown and chosen.

The answer might be in the Psalm of David. "God has made elohim a little lower than the angels." David uses the same word to describe humans as many other bible writers use to describe God.

I've been debating with a friend as to who God really is.  Is God me or someone else?  Is God's "real name" Yahweh? Or Allah? Is there one God or many? Can God be named? Is God masculine or feminine or androgynous?

The definitive answer is yes, and no, and none, and all.

Your understanding of God is ever and always dictated by your upbringing, the books you read, the culture you live in, the sangha (spiritual community) you participate in, and mostly your personal needs and style.  The road that leads to God is narrow and very few find it.  Of those who find it, very few follow it diligently until the end of their lives.

But here's something I didn't understand until today.

If I don't believe that I am at least the tiniest bit divine, that the world will miss a piece of God without me, or that God will not be able to say through anyone else what ought to be said through me, or that I have a divine power that no other human on earth possesses, then I will die. 



With every ounce of my being, I know that many people would have taken the number of pills I took five years ago and died. I didn't, because the God in me is stronger than that.  Last week, my two selves - God and my humanity - had a battle.  This was not the second or third, but probably the dozenth. The inth.

When I tell you that I have no choice but to be alive, please believe me.  My humanity fought my God with every single ounce of her strength and she lost handily.  God barely lifted a finger and my humanity is bloodied and bruised from kicking against the goads.  Death was not a debate, not an option.  I could try if I wanted to and would fail like I did five years ago.

Since being here is not optional, I get to choose whether to be dragged through life waiting to die, or whether to tap into whatever reason God has for belligerently keeping me alive.

Beyoncé used excerpts from a Malcolm X speech in the same song I've been quoting.  Brother Malcolm says, "The most unprotected...the most neglected person in America is the Black woman." And when I look back on my short life at all the people who never tried to protect me, or who tried but were unable to, I know his statement is true.  When I look at all of the lonely days and nights, I know his statement to be true.

But since God is so close to me, and since God's power works through human channels, then I can protect myself.  I can nurture myself.  I can become my own joy and strength.

Christians say, "you can't, but God can." I say, God will not unless I participate, therefore I must.  It matters very little that God can, all that matters is what God wills.  The difference between life or death for me is that God wills life.  Since God already willed life, without my participation or approval, I have to also will life. And how much more enjoyable for both God and myself if I will, as God already has, that life be abundant, full of joy.

So I'm going to walk into another week and try to love me, i.e. God herself.

Friday, May 6, 2016

"adVice City," Philadelphia

Have you ever had your own love explained to you, face to face?

Has your teenager ever sat you down and said, "Mom, Dad, I can tell how much you love me because..." and given you an accurate, heartfelt list of reasons?  Or has your sister ever looked you in the eyes, held your hand and explained how much the cookies and late night phone calls mean to her? It's not that she feels gratitude for the gifts you give, but that she sees how they are not always easy to give but you do it anyway?

Until I thought about it just now, I had never considered that very unique perspective on love.  Not that "I love you," which is huge and important and difficult, but that "you love me," which, whether or not we believe it, carries a similar weight.

This has been a rough week in the O.  It's been a rough few weeks for those of who are studying for finals and giving and taking standardized tests.  It's been crazy for teachers getting laid off and wondering how or if they will find new jobs.

And artists are preparing for outdoor gigs because the weather is warm.  If you're Jabee and Jeff Mims and Allie Lauren and probably a dozen other artists, you played two or three shows in three or four days. And it was beautiful, like being on tour or something.  Many are simultaneously putting out new projects (#BlackFuture) while the Arts Festival gets rained out and we wear shorts in public for maybe the first time this season at Norman Music Festival.


Somehow I managed to keep it together through all of that.  I was selective about which shows I attended and I got myself some rest, so I could be my best for the main events - L.T.Z. on the main stage in Norman and Jabee's NMF After Party.

There were a couple of rough spots at work, a couple more while trying to make my side hustles pay me.  But Saturday night, April 23, I felt fulfilled like I hadn't in a while.  For the last five years, NMF has been one of those things.

I don't remember the first time Jabee told me "I love you" before I walked away, but it touched me. Even now, at least a year or two later, the words come often but unexpectedly and my heart grows a size every time.
That Saturday night, Beetyman said it too, while giving me one of those "good hugs" that he's famous for.
Even Frank Black kissed my cheek, and said, "Love you, sis."

Maybe they knew I would need it soon, to hold onto, like the last few dollars before payday, or getting your pink slip. 

The week in between "Festival Week" and "Doomed Tuesday" May 3rd, I tested all my tenth graders, had a heart to heart with an ex, hosted a youth poetry workshop, hung out with my out-of-town boss, threw a kickback for artists only at my house on a school night til 3 am, drove to Tulsa and back twice, and had a heart to heart with two more exes.
Yep, that was 3 exes total.

Disclaimer on that topic: when I'm talking about love, none of the guys that I've mentioned in this post (prior to the exes) are or ever have been lovers.  They have always just been acquaintances or friends. 

As a girl who has only had short relationships, guys either A) don't ever tell you they love you, or B) don't mean it for very long afterward (if they ever did).

"Doomed Tuesday" was a bad day from its start. I woke up as my first class was beginning.  I was tired, flustered, and embarrassed.  Then I spent my planning period arguing via text message with a friend and an ex about a project we were working on. I came home and hammered out an assignment for my boss that was 3 days overdue.  Then I went to my next bit of business.

I don't have blood siblings. But I feel like I've heard enough stories and watched enough movies to know that sometimes there is no avoiding a fight.

It was just that perfect storm kind of day. I picked a huge fight with Tony because I was having a bad day, a bad week, a bad life.  He told me this, when the fight was dying down,  and I heard him but could not internalize his words because I was exhausted, freezing, seething, and a butthole.
I should have been screaming at my ex.  He was the one I was really angry at.  I was mildly annoyed by Tony just like I'd imagine everyone gets with their younger sibling.  "Mildly annoyed" does not warrant the way I screamed.

But they say we treat worst the ones we love most. 

There are so many parts of our conversation and argument that I don't remember.  It was a couple of hours long.  One minute we were screaming, the next minute he was trying to rationally explain why I should back down, apologize, walk away.  But I'm nothing if not stubborn.  He was the one being rational.  The one being yelled at. The one being loved. 

He told me he knew I was struggling with something, that I walked in the room with it.

I told him that I had to say how I felt and if he didn't want to be friends with me anymore afterward, then that was his prerogative.
I promise, I thought I was right at the time. Or at least right enough to win. Because that's what teachers and big sisters and brainiacs do: win arguments.

Listening to understand when Tony talks is sometimes a daunting task.  He has a lot of words and a lot of wisdom and a lot of a jokes.  So, I have no earthly clue how exactly we arrived at this point in the conversation.  But I remember that he tried to appeal to my reason and my heart from every angle he could think of, and there were several.

He said something like, "you have something against me, but you also love me a lot."
"I can't even really wrap my head around how you love me.  It's a thing I don't understand."
"I've wondered if anything would ever make us stop being friends. I could only think of one thing and this wasn't it."

So I was standing there, in "adVice City", Philadelphia while my "little brother" told me all about myself.
About how much I loved him.
About how much I was carrying that I ought to let go of.

And I couldn't hear it.
He predicted that too.  At least three times in that conversation, he said, "this will hit you later. "
And he was so right.

It's hard to be wrong. Harder still to be better seen by someone you've mistreated.  Hardest yet to figure out how to live with the knowledge that you don't really deserve to be forgiven for pushing and pushing and pushing, for projecting and hurting and judging.

But Tony knows I love him.

And he has taught me the hardest lesson I've learned in five years, since the first time hip hop saved my life.
"You can never unring a bell."
It hurts right now not a fraction less than it did when Tony finally walked away from me hurting and angry and worn down.

If me loving people means consistently wounding them deeply, then I probably ought to just stop here.
I'd already made this decision about intimate love and given up on having it inside 10 years, if ever.  But I truly did not believe I would sink so low as to so deeply wound my friends. When they weren't so very wrong. While they tried to talk me down.

Wednesday, I took the day off to cry and sleep and mope.  I had decided that after we released Black Future, and I performed the poem at a few shows, I would fall completely off the map.  I wouldn't speak unless spoken to, or give any unsolicited opinions.  I would not tweet or comment on anyone's Instagram or Facebook. I would write whatever I thought and felt, until the silence became deafening, until words became sunbeams through storm clouds,/ rare, miraculous,/ necessary.  I would do penance with silence for as long as I had to until I learned to value every single sound my voice could make.  Until a whisper felt like a shout scraping my throat on its exit.

I would do those things, if I lived past the last day of school.
"Here you go, TeaZee, any time you need some inspiration listen to this cd."
I accidentally watched the video of Lupe Fiasco with Big Krit and Dee-1.
Then I watched "Hip Hop Saved Me."
Then "Beautiful Lasers (2 Ways)."

"Don't admit that your faith is weak
If you feel you don't wanna be alive,
you feel just how I am...
This world is such a fucked up place
My mind, such a fucked up shape
Everything down here sucks
Maybe what's up there is great
We all gotta go one day
I just wanna cut to the chase
I wanna stop these nightmares
I just wanna touch your face...
Don't keep tellin' me to find a reason
Anything to keep me from squeezing
The simplest things like,
'You really like summer, you really like music,
you really like reading.'
Love...
my heart been broke for a while
yours been the one keepin' me alive."

My knees buckled as I cried in my kitchen.
I was mad at my ex, who I would have once called my best friend.  But five years ago, when that friend was too busy and life felt just as daunting and impossible and I could not figure out how to keep living, Jabee's and Beety's and Tony's hearts were keeping me alive.  Three years ago when I thought I had loved again, and I had a first date at the release of Slow Narrations of L.T.Z., but it crashed and burned, Tony's heart was keeping me alive.  Last year, when I was so desperate for love that I was planning to marry a stranger, Tony thought I was wrong but supported me and his heart was keeping me alive.

Now who will?
I don't deserve a replacement for him.
I just hope he doesn't truly convince himself that he was wrong about how much I love him. He was not wrong.  He usually isn't.

Back when everything was beautiful and nothing hurt. Thanks for that line and the t-shirt, Jabee. 

As if it were enough:
I'm sorry,
I do love you differently than any other person in my "Whole Life",
Guilty, silent, hurting in "adVice City", Philadelphia

Saturday, April 9, 2016

They Can't Make Us



In California years ago, some students turned down the freedom to play basketball with bad grades in order to study harder. They were taught to consider athletics as a privilege after the hard work of excelling in the classroom. 

In every city in the world today, what if we Christians turned down some legal freedoms and rights in order to pray harder and study our Bibles more? What if we consider our rights and freedoms and preferences as privileges AFTER excelling in wholeness and holiness? 

They can make it legal. But they can't make us do it.  

Let our holiness be the law of our hearts despite the law of the land. 

Higher law. Higher calling. Higher King. 

Friday, March 11, 2016

Puzzled Past, Black Future - From the Nerd Table

I have spent a lot of time over the last 5 years trying to understand what exactly happened at that first show I went to. I think it was Jabee, Chris McCain, Beetyman, and DJ Chips at the Blue Note when I was just past old enough to get in. I can't say that's the first show I was at, but I remember how I felt

"Lucky me." Like there was still something or someone out there who could "teach me how to fly."

And I'll be honest, it wasn't JUST the music that hooked me. At the time, I wasn't passionate about rap. Was it the energy? Was it being a witness to their friendship? Was it the LIVE show?

I saw Kashlee Banks again. We had been hanging out in poet circles for a year or so. I was addicted to her laugh and her openness. She has always giving away as much as she could spare, sometimes more. 


I met McFressh and she looked like, sounded like, wore her hair like, had glasses like someone I needed to be friends with. She had to be someone amazing if she had a rap name and wasn't a rapper, per se. I met Studda, all that passion and intelligence and anger at war within him. I'm sure DezzGotSteeze was there. If not at that show than at another just like it, looking fashion forward and interested in culture above everything. My first memory of Frank Black was in that venue playing pool with Beetyman. 

That had to have been February 2011. 

Then there was my first Norman Music Festival, the year Ashley T Madison The Great became an angel in heaven instead of on earth. 

I guess that's when I met LTZ. He was always around Fressh and Kashlee, before Athena. 


Before Worm was old enough to get into those bars. 
Before my artist, Frank Ready III, had a family, so he could come play pool at the Blue Note after work. We ran into each other accidentally at one of those shows. 

It would still be a while before I was introduced to the awe and wonder of Duo the Sick or Ronnie Harris or J Poe.

Chris McCain asked me when I fell in love with hip hop. I think I told him it was when I watched Lupe Fiasco perform "Kick Push" on the CW's One Tree Hill. I've always had a thing about intersectionality. If Peyton Sawyer, cheerleader and emo Rock goddess of North Carolina, could book Lupe Fiasco for her teen venue, then hip hop could love me too. It could keep my black card from burning a hole in my wallet. It could be home.

But I'm starting to think that TV introduced me, but the beat first kissed my soul in some dark bar in Oklahoma City. 

A lot has happened in five years. 

Jabee wrote a line for Ann Michele King. She lived too far away and was too close to Heaven's gates to appreciate it, but she would have loved it if she could have. He proved that some artists have "a little decency, a little substance."
Jeffery and I drove to Houston to sleep on Kelton's couch and pray over AMK's last year on earth. 
I came home and went to a show.

In 2012, I started performing again. Maybe they gave me the gumption. Jabee let me perform before his set at Norman Music Festival. I was a stringer for OKC.net, writing articles about the shows. 

Ann Michele went to dance in marvelous light. I graduated with my bachelor's degree and I scheduled a solo poetry show. 




Nymasis came to my show with our mutual friend Jesse Red Eagle. At the time, I may have never heard him rap. I had heard that he was a legend and I was honored that he would come hear me spit. Thanks Jesse.  

I had an amazing first date with a guy I fell in love with (and got my heart broken by) the release night of Slow Narrations of LTZ. 


Over 2012 and 2013, I started getting more and more opportunities to perform. Dean Ronnie Harris opened his School of Thought. There I heard J Poe and Nymasis and Dewey Bins and Tyler Reid. 

OP Lounge opened in 2014. I got closer to LTZ and "met" Worm and Jabee stayed steady. I self-published my book, The Risk to Bloom. Jabee won an Emmy and bought and promoted my book at his Emmy celebration in OKC. 



I fell off going to shows during the 2014-2015 school year. 

I got back on around the same time they started having rap shows at the Hubbly Bubbly Hookah Lounge.

My poetic endeavors had taken me to Tulsa where I met a DJ who was based there at the time. When that DJ, Josh Sallee and Jabee were all scheduled to showcase their skills at the Center of the Universe Festival, I invested in a ticket.

Then this happened: 




I've never been more excited about anything!  

I rang in my 2016 new year at a rap show (shoutout Nymasis and Beetyman) with a rapper on my hip. 

Ronnie Harris took Black Future promo photos of Jabee and I in January. 



Seeing the reunion show flyer a few weeks back, and seeing the photos Ronnie posted yesterday makes me "feel some type of way." But I don't really know what way. Is it fandom? Is it inspiration? Is it jealousy? I have no clue. 

I don't see my past experiences with 20/20 vision, but I know my future wouldn't look the same if I'd never seen these Oklahoma City artists on some stage five years ago. 

The Puzzle People are having a reunion show Saturday, March 12. 




I wish I could be there, because I've always been inspired by their energy and creativity. I owe them much gratitude for a few big stages, a few Instagram pics with heart eyes, a bunch of laughs and long conversations - thanks TeaZee, and my first opportunity to executive produce. But I've only ever seen one of them in the crowd at one of my shows - thanks Nym - so I won't postpone my Spring Break trip with my family to be just another face in the crowd. 

I struggled with that decision all day. So if you're in town, be in the crowd for me, okay? Take some pics and post them. I can't sit at "The Cool Table" but you should go to the show.

Saturday, February 6, 2016

Jesus and Ice Cream in a Coffee Mug

I've been trying to figure out how to blog again.

That's the weirdest thing for me to write. 

Figuring out how? No way. Words flow out of me, all the time, for no reason and every reason. There's nothing to figure out, it's just to do

But the doing is hard. 
It's hard because of time. It's hard because our bodies are limited. It's hard because our hearts get cluttered. It's hard because I have a lot of tasks to juggle. But it's important and it's what I'm called to, so I need to do it better. 

Monday night, the Lord infused me with his strength and diligence and I worked hard and went to bed early. I went to bed thinking, "I can't wait to get up in the morning and spend time with the Lord!" That's the best feeling. I pray that feeling comes more regularly. 

I feel it tonight - Saturday. I can't wait to get up in the morning and go worship the Lord with other believers! 

Thank God for expectation! Thank God that He humbles Himself to be with us.  

Tuesday morning I woke with expectation. I brewed coffee and opened my Bible and my notebook and I sat down excited to study.  I read from Matthew 19 about the complexity of what happens after salvation and after death.  


I drank coffee and painted my face and dressed well and felt like I had done it all to the glory of God.  That day at school, I worked hard.  I worked hard on students' assignments.  I worked hard on kids' hearts.  I worked hard to get adolescent writers to transform lists into poems.  

It was lovely.  It was exhausting.  I came home afterward with a PMS migraine and just watched Grey's Anatomy.  I put cookies and cream flavored Blue Bell ice cream into that morning's coffee mug and recorded a short video.  I remembered that my PaPa taught me to control my sweet tooth by eating ice cream out of a small mug.  I remembered that excellence in any area of work is all glory to God who strengthens us.  I smiled a lot.  

It's the little things, like coffee mugs of ice cream, that center us and point us back to the big things: God and His Kingdom and His will being done on earth through us.  How sweet it is!

Here's the link to the video I did that night. I exported it straight from Periscope. 

Saturday, January 2, 2016

Faith in the New Year

Habari Gani: Imani 



Lovely photo of a beauty of a baby girl from a lovely couple who inspire me. 

As we wrap up Kwanzaa and start the new year, we have to have imani- faith - that He who began a good work in us will complete it, that Yahweh's word never returns void but always accomplishes the purpose for which it was sent. 

As we approach our individual and collective work as humans, as Christians, as Black people, may we remember that without faith it is impossible to please God. Let us remember, also, that faith without works is dead. Let us show the world our faith by WHAT WE DO. And when the doing gets tough, let us KEEP THE FAITH. 

Are you ready? 
'Cause I'm super excited and ready! 

"We got it! [God's] got you. So we got it! Together we do!" - The Wiz (my remix)

Amen? So let it be. 

Sunday, December 20, 2015

Some thoughts on Submission

Stay where God put you. Go where God sent you. Do what God asked you.
 
Including every boss who treats you wrong, and every coworker who talks behind your back, and every unfair category of evaluation. Including all racism and every time you take responsibility for something you didn't and would never do. 



Because the Lord wants us to have power over circumstances and demons and death and destruction and sin. He wants you to be the solution looking for the problem.  But you can't do that if you won't submit, stay in place, take a knee, FORFEIT A RIGHT. Let them talk about you. 

Be a David. Be a Joseph! Be an Abigail. Be a MARY.